My wife burst into tears. Not minding the blabbing of the caller, she knelt before me and said “My husband I need to confess.”
Pastor Abong was my boyfriend in secondary school and we lost touch over the years.
I was surprised when he was the one that was transferred to our branch from the international headquarters.
I was fed up with acting right in church when our home was in shambles. You were very angry with me regularly. Everything I did at home annoys you.
Because of my highly placed position in the church, I couldn’t talk to anyone. Because I am the one other pastor’s wife looked up to for marriage advice, I bottled up my hurt and pain inside.
I was about to do something drastic when Abong arrived. Due to our history together I was open to him.
He came to report his wife to me, his marriage is also scattered, his wife had denied him sex for over 2 years. She had pushed him out of the matrimonial bedroom. She told him that she hate him with passion.
We naturally started discussing and keeping ourselves company. He had made efforts to hold me or kiss me, but I didn’t agree
To be honest, I didn’t know when we started sending love messages to ourselves. I didn’t know when I started sneaking out of the house to meet with him in restaurants just to be away from all my own marital storms.
My husband, I am sorry.
Two weeks ago, I stumbled on a Facebook post that says, an emotional relationship is an adultery. I felt bad, I told Abong but he wasn’t ready to stop.
I went into fasting and prayer. I told God I will give him anything just to have my marriage back. I told God to name his price.
God gave me a dream. I saw an old man walking into my room, he brought out a big sack and told me to open my closet. He packed all the clothes that were either short or tight for my stature. He went into my closet and packed all my jewellery. He packed all my make-up kits and even my sexy G-string panties. He packed all my wigs and add-on eyelashes.
Then he went to my shelve, packed off, all the feminist novels I had gathered over the years.
Finally, he collected my phone and started deleting all the romance and x-rated novels I had downloaded.
He now gave me our wedding picture as compensation for everything he packed. Then I woke up from my dream.
I knew the sacrifice He wanted for my marriage is what He showed me in the dream.
My darling husband, I complied last weekend, you were too busy to notice, I have changed totally from what I used to be.
This week, I fasted and I cried to God that since I have given Him everything He wanted, He must give me my husband back.
I told Abong we needed to stop our relationship but he blackmailed me that he would expose all our chat. He also emotionally blackmailed me that He would kill himself if I stop spending time with him.
I was afraid to tell you because I know what you can do when you get angry
I’m so sorry my husband. I will take any punishment you decide to give me…
I was totally disappointed in her, at my assistant pastor and most of all at myself.
I feel like dealing with that assistant pastor but I need to wait for the Holy Spirit.
I remembered that one of the points Satan had against me was being unforgiving.
I lifted up my wife from the floor and hugged her to myself.
Immediately I did that, I felt the warm love of God and I heard the Holy Spirit say “YOU JUST PASSED A TEST”.
My assistant kept trying to text my wife to confirm if she had truly confessed to me or not, but I told my wife to just act normal with him.
Five days later, at the leading of the Holy Spirit, I organized a dinner for both families. My family and the assistant pastor family.
We do this once every year.
I acted normal as if I haven’t heard anything.
He was stealing glances at my wife but I kept my cool in Christ.
During the dinner, I stylishly apologized to his wife. I said “my sister, let me apologize that I kept your husband busy for months as we prepare for the praise program”
Usually, his wife was so reserved, she is an introvert and she keeps to herself, but tonight she seems very jovial.
She smiled and reply “pastor! Don’t mind my husband o, no matter how late he gets home, I must be ready for sex. He loves sex more than food”
The assistant pastor was staring at his food very seriously.
My wife almost choked on her meal.
I smiled, God is exposing the lair.
His wife continued her chatter…
I also want to thank you and mummy for the one million naira you gave our family. Though my husband wanted to keep it a secret I saw the alert.
This time I chuckled too. So he was stealing money from the church in addition to trying to get my wife.
Sweet Holy Spirit, well done.
His wife continued….”I also want to thank you sir”…
It’s ok now, let us eat… The husband interjected in a stern voice
The wife for the first time jumped up in our presence, faced her husband saying “do you want to beat me in the presence of a pastor?”
“The way you beat me when I questioned your travelling with Helen for church ministration”
She faced me, “I’m sorry sir, don’t send my husband on ministration with that Helen. My husband is a smooth womaniser.”
My wife was standing by now…
The eyes of the assistant pastor were very red and his hands shaking…
I replied his wife, “I never sent your husband on any ministration with Helen neither did I send any money to your husband”
His wife shouted… “Abong the smooth liar”
At this point, my wife spoke up, “Pastor Abong, but you told me your wife didn’t give you sex for 2 years, you told me she locked you out, you told me she is the one troubling your marriage?”
At this point, pastor Abong stood up and faced me and said…
“Well, for your information, your wife has been asking me out, I have evidence of our chats.
I smiled and replied: “I have seen the chats too so I am not surprised”. I stood up to hug my wife in solidarity.
His wife laughed aloud and said, “bros, for your information, I have seen all the chats too. I saw how many lies you told her and how she told you to stop calling her but you refused”
“I saw your chats to that young widow in church and to numerous sisters”
I saw it all 3 days ago.
You lock your phone always but you forgot to lock it 3 days ago and I saw all your deceit.
I added my own bit, I told him “Pastor Abong, I saw you when you came into the office and you discovered me fainted, you were wicked enough to leave me there and go dancing with my innocent wife.”
Ahhhh, your heart is wicked.
At this junction, the assistant pastor was expecting me to shout at him or arrest him.
The wife who feels so much pain was now crying.
My wife had to comfort her.
But I will forgive him for 4 reasons
First, if I had treated my own wife well, he won’t have been able to come into her. I have a great fault
Two: The accuser, the devil is waiting for me to make a mistake and I won’t give him a chance.
Three: My new friend, the Holy Spirit told me I must forgive.
Four: I wasn’t the one that exposed him, God, who is now fighting for me, exposed him.
So I forgave him but he was still arrogant.
The Holy Spirit told me not to suspend pastor Abong, that He wants to deal with him Himself.
3 weeks later, he went to see one of his girlfriends, she was also double dating a very crazy tout. The guy caught them in the act and used cutlass to deal with pastor Abong.
Today he is in a wheelchair. He is no longer a womaniser and very devoted to God
Hmmm… stop trying God’s patience. He can be a consuming fire.
3 months after my experience I was sacked as the pastor by the church board!